You Deserve It.

by Susan Yara

Ladies. Let's get one thing straight. If you see a guy more than twice a week (on a regular basis), give up the nookie, assume he’s your date to events, spend at least one weekend day with him, and you’ve been doing this for months…then he’s your boyfriend.

Problem is, I think too many guys like to have their cake and eat it too. That’s why they don’t claim it. There are too many options out there, so they think why settle down with just one lady if they don’t have to? Well, guys…the reason is because you’re effing up the flow.

See back in the days, the times of traditional courtship, there were set rules. If a guy liked you, he told you. Then you planned dates together, maybe kissed a little (and shoot, let him get to 3rd base even), then a month or so into it he would ask you to go steady. There wasn’t much confusion except at the beginning.

But times sure have changed. Now couples can be in permanent limbo—dating or not dating? Unfortunately, I’m not completely blaming men because I think it’s the ladies who need to put their foot down. Guys only keep you around because they can. Remember that.

If a guy doesn’t want to be your boyfriend, but acts like he’s your boyfriend, then there are two problems—he wants to keep his options open and/or he has commitment issues. This is according to my friend Rico.

Either way, he doesn’t like you enough to make you his one and only…and that’s a problem.

So what’s a girl to do if she finds herself hanging instead of dating?

Well, the first option is to tell him how you feel, but Rico says don’t give him an ultimatum because even if he likes you, he might not like the pressure and will most likely walk away. Unfortunately, if he doesn’t come to any decisions on his own, then you’re only real option is to break it off…whatever “it” is.

Then you can only hope that he realizes what he lost. And yes, I know I’m telling you to play games, but that’s just how things work sometimes. The scary part here is, he might not “realize” what he’s lost because he was never that into you in the first place. In that case, he won.

Moral of this message—ladies have more self-esteem and confidence to be with a man who not only adores you, but wants to be with you. I say that because you deserve it.

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Oh we love Susan.  Straight up advice and doesn't mince her words! Loves.

Later this week:
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